Hey Insiders! Welcome to the well!
Self deprecation is the pits, and it is a big black hole that leads to more and more self deprecation. That’s not a hole you want to fall into.
The funny thing about the deep dark pit of being mean to yourself is that it isn’t a pit at all. You can go as deep as you want, and turn around and walk right out as if you had never been in a pile of self criticism and invalidation at all. Personally, I’ve experienced my own negativity toward myself as a weight so heavy that I couldn’t possibly just shed it. And then suddenly, with a simple realization, it is gone. That’s magic, and this world is magic.
I’m feeling really drawn to self care, because I think it’s incredibly important to consider beyond the occasional pedicure (that’s one of my favorite self care treats). Today I spent my morning in the library at the college I attend for my graduate program, and when I walked outside the sun was shining and the air felt warm. I got a sandwich and I sat in the sun in the back of my station wagon (this is a scene directly from my dream of owning a station wagon) and ate lunch in the warm sunshine. I felt so right with myself. That feeling of rightness with yourself – that’s the ultimate self care. That’s what all self care is trying to do.
Here are some tips on self care from Psych Central (click here for the whole article):
- Identify what activities help you feel your best.
- Put it on your calendar — in ink!
- Sneak in self-care where you can.
- Take care of yourself physically.
- Know when to say no.
- Check in with yourself regularly.
- Surround yourself with great people.
- Consider the quality of self-care.
- Remember that self-care is non-negotiable.
Do you regularly incorporate any of these tips into your self care routine? What unique strategies do you have for caring for the one and only you?
Also, I’m posting a song that makes my heart feel great – It’s Fumble by Architecture in Helsinki. Enjoy and have an awesome weekend!